05 How to Have Patience

How To Enter into Love Series, Study 5, Audio: mp3

Again we are considering this theme of entering into the state of love. As we go through, we will find that it is so intertwined each in one of these subjects, that one cannot really do without the other. They are so part and parcel of each other that it is like the body that has many parts and every part is necessary for the whole. Each section of love that we consider is of valuable importance and has a living connection with the other character traits.

1 Corinthians 13:1 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become [as] sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.

13:2 And though I have [the gift of] prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.

13:3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed [the poor], and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.

Here is the intense need, the intense value of this attribute of love that if we don’t have it, it doesn’t matter what else we do in life, we will go back where we came from – dust.

1 Corinthians 13:4 Charity suffereth long, [and] is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,

If we would note how many times the description of love has something to do with patience and the first one is indeed suffering long.

1 Corinthians 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;

13:6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;

13:7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

13:8 Charity never faileth: but whether [there be] prophecies, they shall fail; whether [there be] tongues, they shall cease; whether [there be] knowledge, it shall vanish away.

Attributes of Love

The description of love here starts off with long suffering; it’s the first characteristic that is mentioned in love and this is our consideration today. It’s how to obtain patience and the Bible gives us some very practical lessons and instructions for us how to actually obtain this attribute within us. From our Scripture reading you note that at the end of all things, there is a people that have this attribute. Here is the patience of the saints according to Revelation 14:12. The first is charity suffereth long and then in verse 5, there is another attribute of love that is not easily provoked and then in verse 7, bares all things and at the end of verse 7, endures all things. Patience is a major component of love.

It actually goes over this attribute into different facets of this attribute of patience that it is slow to anger, it is not easily provoked, it has these things and so this consideration is extremely important for us on how to actually obtain it because if we can obtain this trait, we have obtained a large portion of the character of Jesus. As we study, this is nothing short than actually studying who Jesus is. When God showed Moses His glory, what sort of attributes really came out in that description? The Lord is gracious and merciful, long suffering, slow to anger.

God is patient. If we read a few texts to connect patience with the other things that we have considered joy, peace and trust and love itself, the Lord is warning us to be directed into the straight gate, into His place, into a state of being and ultimately into a place of love.

2 Thessalonians 3:5 And the Lord direct your hearts into the love of God, and into the patient waiting for Christ.

Can we see the scripture how it connects? That the Lord is trying to direct our hearts into this love characteristic and loving corporate patience but then it adds and into the patient waiting for Christ . Our hearts need to be directed into this.

Today society is so fast. We get things done so much quicker than we ever have done before yet we still get impatient. A hundred years ago it would have taken them a whole day just to travel from my house 60 kilometers on horse. It would have taken the best part of the day just to travel that and we do it in 35 or 40 minutes and we are still trying to push the car faster because we are in a hurry. I recall my childhood when we got our first computer, we had a program called MS DOS and it was before Windows was really big and it was so slow. All the pixels moved in the screen so slow but it was fast. It was faster than talking but now if you were to have that today, people would smash their computers, it’s too slow. They want speed. They want fast access, they want everything to happen at the click of the button.

If anytime this message is most important, it is today that we actually need to be guided, directed into the love of God and into patience because the kingdom of heaven is like leaven. It’s a process that takes time that the leaven in the bread will work its way bubble by bubble through the dough. Many people today don’t have time to make their bread, they have to go to the shop because the leaven process is too slow. We have to invent machines that can do it so we don’t have to wait that we can just press the button and leave it alone. But the principle of leaven, this patient process protracted process of our character development needs to be understood so we actually can let it take its course in our life.

Joy and Patience

Romans 12:12 Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer;

To rejoice in hope and hope that you have is not hope so something you don’t have but while you are rejoicing in that hope that you don’t have, you are in tribulation and you are to have patience. The connecting link between joy and patience is vital and so as we consider the question how to obtain this joy in our life, we can never disconnect this study with the previous. If we want to have patience we must obtain joy. We also need to obtain peace because love is not easily provoked and if you don’t have peace are you easily provoked? If your nervous system is screaming, how much negativity or bad circumstances does it take to just set you off? The connection between peace and patience is vital also.


We also study trust and trust has an immense connection also with patience and as we considered last week the topic of trust. Trust was like trusting God although everything is going disastrous around you. We compared the analogy to free falling and one characteristic that we brought out was of Job and how he lost everything but he said, “though He slay me, yet will I trust Him.” That trust that Job had if we read in James we can also see that this trust was the ground work for Job’s patience.

James 5:11 Behold, we count them happy which endure. Ye have heard of the patience of Job, and have seen the end of the Lord; that the Lord is very pitiful, and of tender mercy.

It is starting off behold, consider, think about Job and how he said though the Lord slay me yet will I trust Him. He had heard of the patience of Job. How come Job could be so patient? Because of his trust and so the connecting link between the previous considerations is vital that this study cannot stand alone you need to understand joy, peace and trust for the ground work for you to have this patience. That is the first consideration of how to obtain it with these other attributes. Now to go in further of how to have patience, is to do again with trust. If someone said, “please trust me,” and the answer might be, “I don’t know you how can I trust you?” because to trust someone who you do not know is near an impossible.

John 17: 3 And this is life eternal, that they might know thee the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom thou hast sent.

If we know God it will build up fast but it will also build their patience and a beautiful text here in Colossians and this is a big foundation text.

How to Obtain Patience

Colossians 1:9 For this cause we also, since the day we heard [it], do not cease to pray for you, and to desire that ye might be filled with the knowledge of his will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding;

1:10 That ye might walk worthy of the Lord unto all pleasing, being fruitful in every good work, and increasing in the knowledge of God;

1:11 Strengthened with all might, according to his glorious power, unto all patience and longsuffering with joyfulness;

How is the Bible telling us how to do it? When the Bible is saying unto all patience, that means that the result of what it was talking about previously. It was talking about that we might know His will, God’s will. If you know His will and His wisdom and have spiritual understanding and then if you do it which is another attribute of this temperance aspect of obtaining peace, to know what to do and then to do it increasing in the knowledge of God unto all patience that is the result. The result of knowing God’s will and doing God’s will is patience.

How to obtain patience? First we must obtain what is God’s will. I want to know God and I want to know His will. To know His will, will establish trust and will come unto patience, all patience.

How to Know God’s will

1 Corinthians 2:11 For what man knoweth the things of a man, save the spirit of man which is in him? even so the things of God knoweth no man, but the Spirit of God.

For us to have patience we must know God’s will and we must know God. But here it’s saying the things of God knoweth no man. No one knows the things of God. His ways are far above our ways. His thoughts are not our thoughts. There is a difference between God’s will and our own will, there is a difference between Him and us but the spirit of God knows.

1 Corinthians 2:12 Now we have received, not the spirit of the world, but the spirit which is of God; that we might know the things that are freely given to us of God.

2:13 Which things also we speak, not in the words which man’s wisdom teacheth, but which the Holy Ghost teacheth; comparing spiritual things with spiritual.

2:14 But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know [them], because they are spiritually discerned.

Do you want patience in your life? You need to know God’s will and if you want to know God’s will you need His Holy Spirit. This keeps coming back to the emphasis of being born again to actually have a new life, to have God’s spirit that you will know His will. Do you know God’s will? Do you know how God works? Do you know His character? Do you know the methods in which God uses? Whether you do or you don’t will determine whether you can have patience or not. If we don’t know God’s methods, we need to ask for His spirit to enlighten us to His methods

Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to [his] purpose.

Do you know that everything works together for good to those that love God? If you are wanting this love attribute, God is trying to direct our hearts into this love and patience and if we are willing to be part of this, do you know that everything that happens to you works for good? Because whether you know it or you don’t know it, again will determine whether you have patience or not. It’s all in the knowledge to have patience is to have a knowledge.

Being Joyous in Difficulties

James 1:2 My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations;

1:3 Knowing [this], that the trying of your faith worketh patience.

Do you understand the connection between joy and patience? The knowing helps you to have joy. Knowing this, count it joy, how can you count something joy? Are you ever happy when bad things happen or when good things happen? When good things happen we are happy and do you know that all things work for good? If you know that all things work for good, then you can be happy although it seems bad, it is good. Knowing this; so it’s a knowledge that the trying of your faith worketh patience

James 1:4 But let patience have [her] perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.

The Bible in the next verse says if you don’t know; if any man lacks wisdom let him ask of God. If you don’t know that all things work together for good then that is the wisdom that we are to ask God to show us the good things in every circumstance of our lives. Patience actually works something inside of you and what works patience? Tribulation works for patience. Do we understand God’s method in actually trying our characters, building our characters up? If we say Lord I want to have a purified character then God is going to put us into a tribulation experience and that experience if we activate joy in that will work this patience. It will work it like cause or effect. If you are ever carrying a baby do you think ‘oh I really need to think about this so that the kidneys get developed I got think that my child will develop its kidneys so I’ve really got to make sure that they develop, that the kidneys get developed.’ We don’t even think about that it we do helpful principles and we follow God’s ways and God’s laws will develop the child.

When we want patience and this character development, we aren’t to try and stressfully work out ‘okay I got to be patient here.’ It is let patience have its work being in a situation where you know that this is working for your good. How? We don’t always know how but it is and I know it is and because I know it is, I can let it do its work. To know this is so important.

Knowledge of God

Romans chapter 6 also gives us another instruction of what we should know because to have patience is nothing short of rebirth as we mentioned before.

Romans 6:3 Know ye not, that so many of us as were baptized into Jesus Christ were baptized into his death?

Don’t you know that if you are going to enter into the discipleship of Jesus Christ you are actually entering into a dying experience? Don’t you know that? This is what the Bible is saying that to know if I’m going to follow Jesus I need to be buried into His death. Was His death nice? Was His death good? It was good only by faith . It seemed wrong, it seemed negative the disciples didn’t even pick it up they fled because they did not know that this experience was preparing them for Pentecost.

Romans 6:4 Therefore we are buried with him by baptism into death: that like as Christ was raised up from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life.

6:5 For if we have been planted together in the likeness of his death, we shall be also [in the likeness] of [his] resurrection:

The Bible is trying to explain to us that if we will go through the trial of our faith that this patience will work in us the resurrection experience, do you desire to be at the resurrection morning? Do you desire to be there when God calls his Jews? Then if you want that you must know God’s will and God’s will is for us to go through a dying experience so we can live.

Romans 6:5 For if we have been planted together in the likeness of his death, we shall be also [in the likeness] of [his] resurrection:

I like the analogies like planting it’s like a seed, it’s in the ground. When you put the seed in the ground do you consider that a bad experience? No because you know when that seed if it is planted in the ground, then it will grow. It’s all about your knowledge. If you don’t know that it’s not going to grow, then it feels like you are wasting your seed and shoving them in the ground. But if you know that to get the plant to grow we must put the seed in the ground to die. I can have patience while the seed is coming up. We have been planted together in the likeness of His death we shall be also in the likeness of His resurrection.

Romans 6:6 Knowing this, that our old man is crucified with [him], that the body of sin might be destroyed, that henceforth we should not serve sin.

We are to know that to obtain patience the flesh needs to be killed and that we don’t serve sin. This is God’s will and if we know God’s will according to Colossians, it will be unto us in all patience. Knowing this that our old man is crucified with Him that our body of sin might be destroyed – God needs us to destroy sin and sin dwells in us and it needs to be destroyed. That is God’s will, that is God’s plan and it is destroyed and that experience because it is inside of us is a painful experience. If you know that it has to be cut out, you will do it. Knowledge can make you do amazing things.

The Power of a Doctor

No one on this planet can ask you to remove a part of your clothing to take pills, to do anything. Doctors can do it, no one else can do it. If someone came up to you and said, “Can you to take this pill?'” You will say, “No I’m not going to take that pill.” But if it is a doctor then you’ll do it. They can prescribe anything and we’ll take it in today’s society, why? Because you know that they are a doctor and that they know what’s inside of you and they know how to cure it. God is the same principle He is the great physician, He knows what we need in our life and if He knows then we can go under His knife. It is a little bit traumatizing but it’s not as traumatizing as going under a knife of some stranger. If you are in the alley way and there is a knife you would fall apart but if you were in a surgery and there was a knife it’s a totally different situation because you know something. The Bible is calling us to know God’s will. It’s so important for us to know God’s will and what He needs to do within us that we can say we know that all things work together for good. I know that and if we know that then we can have this patience.

Colossians 1:9 For this cause we also, since the day we heard [it], do not cease to pray for you, and to desire that ye might be filled with the knowledge of his will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding;

You understand things, you understand God’s ways you can trust Him and you don’t just understand Him you do it and yield to God.

Colossians 1:10 That ye might walk worthy of the Lord unto all pleasing, being fruitful in every good work, and increasing in the knowledge of God;

1:11 Strengthened with all might, according to his glorious power, unto all patience and longsuffering with joyfulness;

Romans 12:1 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, [which is] your reasonable service.

You will know that you can prove what God’s perfect will is. How to obtain patience is to know His will, know it, understand His ways, understand God’s message and that will do a tremendous amount to your ability to be patient. But as Colossians said, we are to know His will and to obey and give our bodies a living sacrifice. Know ye not that your body is a temple of the Holy Ghost? Do you know that you body is a temple of the Holy Ghost? Because if you know that if any man defiles the temple of God, him God shall destroy. If we understand God’s ways of destroying, God is known by the judgments in which He executes that the wicked are snared in the works of their own hands, if we destroy our body, if we defile our temple we destroy ourselves and so to know Gods will for us is so important.


1 Corinthians 9:24 Know ye not that they which run in a race run all, but one receiveth the prize? So run, that ye may obtain.

9:25 And every man that striveth for the mastery is temperate in all things. Now they [do it] to obtain a corruptible crown; but we an incorruptible.

How to enter into love, how to obtain patience is calling for knowledge of God’s will but the temperance application of God’s will also because God’s will for us is to get sleep at night. Do we just sleep during the day also because it is God’s will that we sleep? We are to be like athletes. We want to obtain this patience so we need to be temperate with God’s will. Temperance is all about decisions. To have something and to be temperate with it is to make a decision on when it is enough or whether it is even good to start with. The third aspect of how to obtain patience is found in temperance.

“And to knowledge, temperance.” This is the third step in the path toward perfection of character. On every side there is indulgence and dissipation, and the result is degeneration and corruption. The inhabitants of our earth are depreciating in mental, moral, and physical power, because of the intemperate habits of society. Appetite, passion, and love of display are carrying the multitudes into the greatest excesses and extravagance…. The people of God must take an opposite course from the world. They must take up the warfare against these sinful practices, deny appetite, and keep the lower nature in subjection…. It is for us to “search the Scriptures,” and bring our habits into harmony with the instruction of the Bible…. {ML 97.2}

The need of becoming temperate is made manifest as we try to take this step. It is next to an impossibility for an intemperate person to be patient. {ML 97.3}

Patience as we will learn a bit more, is an incredible state of mind that holds your sanity together. If your physical nature is being polluted then our brains become on edge, nervous and weak against the impulses. A classic example is someone who is tired, especially a mother who is tired and has children that are very noisy. That tired condition affects the brain and the brain does not have the power to control and understand things and so because of the intemperateness of sleeping you lose yourself. It is next to an impossibility for an intemperate person to be patient. Some of us have a nervous temperament and then naturally is quick as a flash as to think and to act. But let no one think that he cannot learn to become patient. Patience is a plant that will make rapid growth if carefully cultivated. How to obtain patience? There is a cultivation which we are studying firstly to establish other attributes like joy and peace and trust but also to get a knowledge of God thoroughly, to get an understanding of how He works and then to be temperate in all of God’s commands. But let no one think that he cannot learn to become patient. Patience is a plan that will make rapid growth if carefully cultivated.

By becoming thoroughly acquainted with ourselves and then combining with the growth of God, by a firm determination on our part we may be conquerors and become perfect in all things wanting nothing. Patience pours the balm of peace and love into the experiences of the home life. Patience will seek for unity in the church, in the family and in the community. This grace must be woven into our lives. How precious is balm of peace that gets poured into the home of the atmosphere in which you dwell? For a patient, loving situation, temperance is needed. Temperance is nothing short of self control. When you’ve had that which is good and you’ve had enough, you just stop or if something is harmful to you have to abstain from that it is to control yourself and that attribute of temperance is a necessity for patience.

Power of Patience

Jesus speaking in the last days was asked by the disciples to show us the signs that shall happen before His coming.

Luke 21:16 And ye shall be betrayed both by parents, and brethren, and kinsfolks, and friends; and [some] of you shall they cause to be put to death.

21:17 And ye shall be hated of all [men] for my name’s sake.

21:18 But there shall not an hair of your head perish.

21:19 In your patience possess ye your souls.

Put yourself in that situation that your parent, or your daughter or your son, or one of your family members betrayed you to death, told lies about your character and brought you to a state of the end of your life. Wouldn’t that really play with your head? Wouldn’t that does it really affect your rational, the whole everything about you that the people that you trusted when you were little have done all these things? But God is saying ‘let patience possess your soul.’ Unless you know the will of God and do the will of God, you cannot have this patience.

All should cultivate patience by practicing patience. {AH 106.2}

This patience we have considered that we need the attributes of, we need a thorough knowledge of God’s will and we need to be temperate. This is what the Bible is teaching us how to obtain this patience. There is another instruction that the Bible gives us on how to obtain patience. All should cultivate patience by practicing patience

Romans 5:2 By whom also we have access by faith into this grace wherein we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God.

5:3 And not only [so], but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience;

5:4 And patience, experience; and experience, hope:

James said let patience have her perfect work. Unless we actually let ourselves make hard experiences, we cannot know patience. Patience works experience and the Spirit of Prophecy says that we let go off the hand of God too soon. We are going through a situation and we want to get out of it and we just want exit doors, we are looking for exit doors and as soon as we get exit doors we are out but did you make the experience? You didn’t, did you gain your patience? No, did you let patience have its work? No and so you miss out on the blessing.

Patience Works Experience

The Bible is saying that patience works experience and Job made a very powerful experience. At the end of his experience he knew God, he knew everything about God, he loved God. Even Enoch, he made experiences when he had his child. He walked with God for 300 years and he made experiences and those experiences made his hope grow and from that experience he walked into heaven. We let go off the hand of God too soon. We get the exit door way too fast. We are too impatient and we need to be patient with patience and all should cultivate patience by practicing patience to not get out of the situation.

James 5:7 Be patient therefore, brethren, unto the coming of the Lord. Behold, the husbandman waiteth for the precious fruit of the earth, and hath long patience for it, until he receive the early and latter rain.

5:8 Be ye also patient; stablish your hearts: for the coming of the Lord draweth nigh.

5:10 Take, my brethren, the prophets, who have spoken in the name of the Lord, for an example of suffering affliction, and of patience.

5:11 Behold, we count them happy which endure. Ye have heard of the patience of Job, and have seen the end of the Lord; that the Lord is very pitiful, and of tender mercy.

Here the Bible is saying that we are to have patience like the farmer has patience for the fruit that he is growing. The farmer knows how long it takes, the farmer knows by experience. The first time I ever planted anything I thought it died because it didn’t come up in the six days that it said on the packet. But after ten days it came and then I knew it can be six or it can be ten days and that experience the next time I planted, I didn’t worry when it came to six days. I waited to ten by experience and this is what it is saying. That a farmer can go and make experience of how to grow things and the next year he will be wiser because he will know from the year before what happened. Every year that you produce things you realise ‘ah this happened and I don’t need to worry now because I know the answers to this and to that.’

They have patience for the plant to grow because this patience is an experience. Can you make an experience in five years and say ‘I have made my experience and now that’s it?’ We need long years of experience and we need to be patient enough to accept that patience comes per patience. We need to be patient to have patience. We need to understand that if a vegetable isn’t ripened, we don’t just shake it to bits because it didn’t ripen you’ll only kill it. We need to know amongst ourselves that if people are not progressing, we need to know the process that God works. Sanctification is a long work, it’s a patient protracted process and if you know that, you can have long patience because you will know what will happen. Wait, just wait it will happen.

God’s people will be known of their patience

Abraham had to learn patience. He left his own place and he wandered. He was promised and he had to have patience for the promise. In that patience process he made experiences that produced patience to a larger degree. Hebrews 10:34 says, we are in need of patience in obtaining the promises that God gives us. Patience is a two-fold experience. You need to be patient in getting patience. It’s patient in just waiting and asking and still relying on God that He’ll still develop these things, these character traits which we are studying that although I don’t fully have patience yet, I can wait and I don’t have to look for the exit door and get out of it but continue to develop this trait.

1 Peter 2:20 For what glory [is it], if, when ye be buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it patiently? but if, when ye do well, and suffer [for it], ye take it patiently, this [is] acceptable with God.

The level of patience that we are to obtain to is not just in problems that we are in that we have caused, but to be in problems that we haven’t even caused and that is the real test of patience.


If you do well and you suffer for it, if you obey God and people cut you down to have patience in that with that riling for riling and biting back, this is acceptable with God and how to obtain this is in Hebrews 12.

Hebrews 12:1 Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset [us], and let us run with patience the race that is set before us,

12:2 Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of [our] faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.

12:3 For consider him that endured such contradiction of sinners against himself, lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds.

He that endures to the end the same shall be saved. To have patience with the whole process of running this race and that all the suffering that we go through that we look to Jesus because He was the author and the finisher of that experience. He started it and He finished it. How did He do it? He kept looking at the joy that was set before Him, He had happiness and joy and that comes back to have this patience we need to constantly know God’s will and know the glory of God’s will. If you know God’s glory of what He is going to bring, then you know that you can go under the knife and you can go under all the experiences that Job went through and you can be known of your patience. God’s people will be known of their patience looking to Jesus.

1Peter 4:12 Beloved, think it not strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened unto you:

4:13 But rejoice, inasmuch as ye are partakers of Christ’s sufferings; that, when his glory shall be revealed, ye may be glad also with exceeding joy.

To be partakers of Christ suffering, to have contradiction of sinners against yourself, to actually try and come out of the world and there are people around you that are still trying but failing, to have patience with yourself and with others and with all the sufferings rejoice because you and Christ are one in that situation. If you and Christ are one in Christ in the suffering, then you and Christ will be one in the glory. God’s people will be known for their patience.

As the world has wandered after the beast and every person has this mark of the beast. There will be a people with patience. Here is patience and it’s nowhere else in the earth because we have learnt how to obtain this patience, to have peace, joy and trust knowing God’s will and being temperate in all things allowing ourselves to make experiences and looking to Jesus. May God help us to do these things it is my prayer in Jesus name. Amen.

Posted on June 6, 2012, in Divine Service Sermons, Sermons For Sabbath. Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

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