06 How to Have Kindness

Jesus is tenderly calling, calling us to enter in at the strait gate to enter into His love. He is calling us with this tenderness. My question is, do you hear Jesus calling you tenderly? Do you hear Jesus calling you to enter into these characteristics of love that we have considered? Do you hear Him calling? It is my prayer that we will hear Jesus calling us to enter in at the strait gate. We have looked at a few character traits and the last one was patience, how to obtain patience.

There were five main instructions that the Bible brought out and that was to connect patience with the other fruits of joy, peace and trust. As you seek for the joy and peace and trust, this is one step of obtaining patience but the second one we considered was knowing Gods will and knowing God so you could say with the scriptures, I know that all things work together for good. I know that everything I go through is actually positive working and because we know that, we can have patience. The third instruction that the Bible ruled out was being temperate. We are to add temperance to patience and self-control both in diet, in the natural but also in the spiritual. The fourth one was patience which is gained by experience and experience is gained by patience. The Spirit of Prophecy says that if we want to cultivate patience, we need to practice patience.

Like the illustration of the farmer, he knows because of his experience how long it takes for the seeds to germinate. Therefore because of his experience, he has patience for the plant to germinate. He knows how long it takes. He has experience in the farming industry. The fifth and most important was looking to Jesus and looking at His suffering lest we become weary and faint in our minds. When we become tired of this endurance, (he that endures to the end the same shall be saved) and like any endurance running, the hardest bit is at the end when you become weary. The Scripture is continually pointing us to look to Jesus the author and finisher of our faith.

Job was a character who became known for his patience. Peter said, you have heard of the patience of Job. That patience of Job indeed came by knowing and trusting God. Though He slay me yet will I trust him. His experience in looking to Jesus his redeemer, he was able to have this proof in his life and character, patience. There is another major element to love and that is kindness. Love is patient, love is kind.

Psalms 36:7 How excellent [is] thy lovingkindness, O God! therefore the children of men put their trust under the shadow of thy wings.

That kindness leads back to trust. As we consider all these different segments of love, they are connected with an inseparable connection to each other that kindness has an effect on trust and trust has an effect on kindness. They are so blended in that to consider one at a time is very difficult but all are a package and we are to add each part not that we have added to our faith virtue and now I add one at a time, it’s like pregnancy when a child is being developed, is the stomach all completed before anything else? It’s not. The stomach is developed, the brain is being developed at the same time and the major organs are being developed and there is across the whole human anatomy a gentle building of more than one organ at a time. So with the Christian walk. It is not that I need to get patience right now and don’t think about anything else, I need to get kindness right now and don’t think about anything else. This is the same process as being born that we are adding a growth aspect to the things that we have already got and it continues as we go. Kindness is one of those things which is the kernel of love because Peter said add to your faith virtue, knowledge temperance, patience, godliness, brotherly kindness and charity. Kindness is something that is very, very important for us to understand. We are not considering how to be kind, its studying how to have kindness.

1 Corinthians 13:3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed [the poor], and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.

Isn’t that kindness? If I don’t have love, it doesn’t profit me anything. The study is not how to be kind, the study is how to have kindness. Consider John 3 to gain a principle of our own being;

John 3:11 Verily, verily, I say unto thee, We speak that we do know, and testify that we have seen; and ye receive not our witness.

What is God saying here? That we can only speak what is in our head. We can only do those things which we have seen. Isn’t that true with children? They only do what they see. They only speak about what they know and all of us can only produce what is within us.

Luke 6:43 For a good tree bringeth not forth corrupt fruit; neither doth a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit.

6:44 For every tree is known by his own fruit. For of thorns men do not gather figs, nor of a bramble bush gather they grapes.

6:45 A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh.

As we are considering about having kindness, kindness can never come from us naturally because the scripture has concluded that all are under sin. An evil person cannot generate kindness. They can do kind deeds like you can bestow all your goods to the poor, but you can’t have it. It’s against the law.

How to Have Kindness?

We can only produce that which we have. How do we get it? Another principle of humanity is that love is generated by seeing it displayed in someone else toward us. A child who has never loved, never cared for, can never be caring. But when they have love given to them, then they learn by the things they see and then it can be produced.

The exercise of force is contrary to the principles of God’s government; He desires only the service of love; and love cannot be commanded; it cannot be won by force or authority. Only by love is love awakened. {DA 22.1}

Only by love, is love awakened. Only by kindness is kindness awakened. We do not have kindness, how do we get kindness?

Jeremiah 31:3 The LORD hath appeared of old unto me, [saying], Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore with lovingkindness have I drawn thee.

Romans 5:8 But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.

Jesus Christ has come into this world and displayed before us who are incapable of being kind. It is impossible. We cannot be kind. Jesus Christ has come and has drawn us, has commended His love to us while we were in this condition of having no kindness whatsoever. He displayed this kindness in front of us. How to be kind, only by love is love awakened. Only by seeing someone being kind to you then it can awake kindness in yourself toward others. But kindness is only understood when we know that we don’t deserve it. If someone does nothing to us and we unconsciously or consciously think we deserve it, is it being kind or is it duty? If someone gives us something that is ours, is that them being kind to us or is that them doing their duty?

For God to display His kindness to us, we may not pick it up. We may not hear the voice of Jesus tenderly calling us. Everything that God does for us in our lives we might expect Him to do this for us. All the blessings that God should do is for us, this is the question. Do you actually hear God tenderly calling you? Do you actually realise that what God is doing to you that we don’t deserve? When we see that we don’t deserve it, then that is kindness to us. If we expect that the sun should come up and I should have hot water and all these things if I expect it, then is it kindness? It is kindness but to us, is it kindness? It is not kindness, it is duty. God wants us to come to an understanding of our poverty, of our actual condition. When we are in this state, it capitalizes on this condition and actually saves us.

Titus 3:2 To speak evil of no man, to be no brawlers, [but] gentle, showing all meekness unto all men.

Can we do this?

Titus 3:3 For we ourselves also were sometimes foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving divers lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful, [and] hating one another.

When does Gods kindness appear to our mind? When we realise we are foolish, disobedient, serving diverse lusts and living in malice, envy and hating people. When we realise that this is our condition, verse 4 says;

3:4 But after that the kindness and love of God our Saviour toward man appeared,

First come to terms with our due. The wages of sin is death. When we don’t mentally come to terms with it but inwardly come to terms with it, then Gods kindness all of a sudden appears everywhere you look. What does this sound like? Someone who realises what they deserve?

Psalms 143:7 Hear me speedily, O LORD: my spirit faileth: hide not thy face from me, lest I be like unto them that go down into the pit.

There is an expression of understanding the experience without God. If you don’t help me I’m dead. If God doesn’t help me life is finished. This is the call.

Psalm 143:8 Cause me to hear thy lovingkindness in the morning; for in thee do I trust: cause me to know the way wherein I should walk; for I lift up my soul unto thee.

What a beautiful prayer. When we really come to an inward experience that without God, we are dead, not dead like inwardly decayed with rottenness, the whole world is filled with woe, there is nothing pleasant without God. Cause me to hear thy loving kindness. When does it appear? In this state. How to have kindness – we can only bring out what is within us. We can get things within us by observing and beholding. We can get it inside of us. Beholding Christ it can be put in us. But how can we behold kindness unless we feel that it’s not duty?

Psalms 107:1 O give thanks unto the LORD, for [he is] good: for his mercy [endureth] for ever.

It is a positive and negative experience all the way through Psalm 107.

Psalm 107:4 They wandered in the wilderness in a solitary way; they found no city to dwell in.

107:5 Hungry and thirsty, their soul fainted in them.

107:6 Then they cried unto the LORD in their trouble, [and] he delivered them out of their distresses.

107:7 And he led them forth by the right way, that they might go to a city of habitation.

107:8 Oh that [men] would praise the LORD [for] his goodness, and [for] his wonderful works to the children of men!

It was when they were thirsty and hungry they called to God and then God brought them out because they came to a point where God is our only help. I have to go to him. Then God bestowed his kindness to them and oh that men would praise Him for His goodness.

Psalm 107:10 Such as sit in darkness and in the shadow of death, [being] bound in affliction and iron;

107:11 Because they rebelled against the words of God, and contemned the counsel of the most High:

107:12 Therefore he brought down their heart with labour; they fell down, and [there was] none to help.

107:13 Then they cried unto the LORD in their trouble, [and] he saved them out of their distresses.

107:14 He brought them out of darkness and the shadow of death, and brake their bands in sunder.

107:15 Oh that [men] would praise the LORD [for] his goodness, and [for] his wonderful works to the children of men!

107:17 Fools because of their transgression, and because of their iniquities, are afflicted.

107:18 Their soul abhorreth all manner of meat; and they draw near unto the gates of death.

107:19 Then they cry unto the LORD in their trouble, [and] he saveth them out of their distresses.

107:20 He sent his word, and healed them, and delivered [them] from their destructions.

107:21 Oh that [men] would praise the LORD [for] his goodness, and [for] his wonderful works to the children of men!

Then another low experience Lord help me, then kindness.

Psalm 107:23 They that go down to the sea in ships, that do business in great waters;

107:24 These see the works of the LORD, and his wonders in the deep.

107:25 For he commandeth, and raiseth the stormy wind, which lifteth up the waves thereof.

107:26 They mount up to the heaven, they go down again to the depths: their soul is melted because of trouble.

107:27 They reel to and fro, and stagger like a drunken man, and are at their wit’s end.

107:28 Then they cry unto the LORD in their trouble, and he bringeth them out of their distresses.

107:30 Then are they glad because they be quiet; so he bringeth them unto their desired haven.

107:31 Oh that [men] would praise the LORD [for] his goodness, and [for] his wonderful works to the children of men!

107:33 He turneth rivers into a wilderness, and the watersprings into dry ground;

107:34 A fruitful land into barrenness, for the wickedness of them that dwell therein.

107:35 He turneth the wilderness into a standing water, and dry ground into watersprings.

107:36 And there he maketh the hungry to dwell, that they may prepare a city for habitation;

107:37 And sow the fields, and plant vineyards, which may yield fruits of increase.

God even helps us to bear the fruit on the tree, He makes the ground produce. He makes the food go on our table. He makes us drive in our car safely and on the water, and anywhere God is the one that is helping us and if we expect that we deserve this, we will never see Gods kindness to us – never. It will never appear to you. If it doesn’t appear to you, you will never be kind. You will never have kindness. You may give all your things to the poor, but unless in your daily walk with God you acknowledge that Gods is feeding you and Gods hand is giving me everything I need, unless that happens it doesn’t matter how kind the acts you do, it will profit you nothing. How to have love, how to have kindness. We have seen Gods hand in Psalm 107.

Psalms 107:43 Whoso [is] wise, and will observe these [things], even they shall understand the lovingkindness of the LORD.

Do you hear Jesus calling you tenderly calling you to enter into love? When you can eat fresh fruit, that is Jesus calling you. He is displaying kindness before your eyes but do you hear him calling you? Do you hear and see that kindness and respond back to God with kindness? Only by observing kindness can humanity ever bring kindness out. For us to feel our need it is so important for us to have this kindness. These gifts of God because then when we have kindness, when we have appreciated the loving kindness of God and when our neighbor is hungry, we will help him. When someone needs forgiveness, we will forgive them.

Matthew 10:8 freely ye have received, freely give.

Isn’t that the principle? Only by receiving can we give. A person can only speak that which he knows. A person can only testify of those things which he hath seen. For us to consider how to be kind, the only way to be kind is to feel your need and observe Gods bounty. As you receive that, freely give. This is this building of love in our character that we all need to have. When we read texts like this, it is not like it is an impossible task.

Luke 6:35 But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and [to] the evil.

6:36 Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father also is merciful.

God lends and doesn’t expect. God loves and He commendeth His love while we were sinners so as we observe that, I have done nothing to deserve anything God has done to me. Then when a brother needs something, should we say does he deserved it? If he did deserve it we are not being kind to him, it is only giving him his dues. Kindness is only doing things to people that don’t deserve it.

6:37 Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven:

It is not our prerogative to judge if people deserve kindness or not. It is our privilege to give out that which we have received.

Luke 6:35 But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and [to] the evil.

6:36 Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father also is merciful.

Ephesians 4:32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

Do you see the principle? If we can’t understand that God’s forgiveness to me is as deep as it is, we are incapable of carrying this kindness. Impossible. Until we come to the foot of the cross to the experiences where God is supplying my need, He is the one that is growing the food, He is the one that is giving all these things and I do not deserve it, that will work in you his kindness. That is how you are to have kindness. The actions that flow out from that is only the response of the good tree bringing forth good fruit. May the Lord help us to add this into our character by practicing and by patience this can become a need to become part of us.


Posted on December 17, 2011, in Divine Service Sermons, Sermons For Sabbath. Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

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