The Balm of Gilead in the Social Realm

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In the creation of man, God has recognised a need which he has created;

Genesis 2:18 And the LORD God said, [It is] not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.  19 And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought [them] unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that [was] the name thereof. 20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. 21 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; 22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. 23 And Adam said, This [is] now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. 24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

God created man with a social fabric and Adam recognised there was none for him. He recognised in creation there was a partner for every creature but not for him. God said it was not good that man should be alone. God created the woman different from every other creation from which he created. God spoke by the Word of his mouth and it was done and it stood fast. The beasts of the field, the fowl of the air he created out of the dust of the earth and man also. But the help meet was created from something that was just coming into existence. He took from man and created another being to meet the need of that social fabric which he recognised. The woman was created different. She was created from the construction of the man. She was built for the man. Adam recognised this when he saw her. He said, this is bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh. She shall be called woman. Why? Because she was taken out of man. This was the perfect creation of God.

After the creation of Adam every living creature was brought before him to receive its name; he saw that to each had been given a companion, but among them “there was not found an help meet for him.” Among all the creatures that God had made on the earth, there was not one equal to man. And God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” Man was not made to dwell in solitude; he was to be a social being. Without companionship the beautiful scenes and delightful employments of Eden would have failed to yield perfect happiness. Even communion with angels could not have satisfied his desire for sympathy and companionship. There was none of the same nature to love and to be loved. {PP 46.1}

An Help Meet

God Himself gave Adam a companion. He provided “an help meet for him”–a helper corresponding to him–one who was fitted to be his companion, and who could be one with him in love and sympathy. Eve was created from a rib taken from the side of Adam, signifying that she was not to control him as the head, nor to be trampled under his feet as an inferior, but to stand by his side as an equal, to be loved and protected by him. A part of man, bone of his bone, and flesh of his flesh, she was his second self, showing the close union and the affectionate attachment that should exist in this relation. “For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it.” Ephesians 5:29. “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one.” {PP 46.2}

There are seven points, seven needs for the man’s social fabric to be met;

1.    Companionship

2.    Sympathy

3.    To be of the same nature

4.    To be able to love

5.    To be loved

6.    To be a helper

7.    To have harmony

If you consider that man would not be perfectly happy in Eden while ever he had solitude, do you think man could be happy today outside of Eden without those needs met? Can we really find happiness when we have no companion, no sympathy, no one of the same nature, to love and be loved? No one to help me and no harmony?  This is what happened in the first brother relationship that came after Adam and Eve. Those brothers were of solitude. There was no sympathy from Cane to Abel. There was criticism and accusing. The two brothers were of different nature. Abel of the divine nature which he received through the belief in Christ and Cane who refused to partake of the divine nature. Cain didn’t love, he hated. He was not a helper, he was a hinder. There was no harmony but discord. The heart of man is constantly unconsciously on a hunt for a supply of these needs for his social fabric. Unconsciously looking for someone to be a companion to be able to do these things together. Even if you don’t know it, when you go and socialise with people you have your feelers out, looking for somebody.

1 Samuel 18:1 And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. 2 And Saul took him that day, and would let him go no more home to his father’s house. 3 Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved him as his own soul.

David and Jonathan

David and Jonathan were searching for the fulfilment of companionship. It was a knitting. It doesn’t say how, but it was knit. David loved Jonathon so much even as his own soul. You can see that we too are looking for someone to be knit to us. David always longed to have friends and not enemies. Some of the most hurtful things are expressed here. David loved Jonathon how much? As his own soul.

Psalms 55:12 For [it was] not an enemy [that] reproached me; then I could have borne [it]: neither [was it] he that hated me [that] did magnify [himself] against me; then I would have hid myself from him: 13 But [it was] thou, a man mine equal, my guide, and mine acquaintance. 14 We took sweet counsel together, [and] walked unto the house of God in company.

Who reproached David? Someone who was close to him, his equal. This caused him so much pain because he said if it was his enemy, he could have borne that but someone who is so close to me, who has gone to worship with me in the house of God, who has taken counsel and talked and we have been friends. It is you who has magnified thyself against me. The deep anguish that souls have today because of those they have knit themselves to have not been reliable. They have hoped and longed for every aspect of their social needs to be met.

Sympathy

For someone to have sympathy and when someone fails to give sympathy, the heart gets sick. Man has a hope to find an equal, a help meet. Time and time again it fails. Not just in marriage but in every relation we want somebody. In work, church, we desire someone to be with us. It’s part of our creation. As much as we have arms and legs, we have that. It was there in creation. God saw that Adam could be not be absolutely happy without that. Even in Eden in its perfection, he still could not find true happiness because in the heart of man is a need.

Proverbs 7:26 For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong [men] have been slain by her. 27 Her house [is] the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death.

Do you know what this is talking about? To be in a relationship of one flesh, to have your heart fully open to the other person and they wound. They fail. They fail to love. They fail to allow themselves to be loved. They do not help. There is no harmony. There is some discordant note in the relationship. To every heart it is a wound. That is what I’ve been looking for and it’s failing. Yeah many strong men have been slain. People that you think that have a lot of zeal when it comes to their inner needs, and if it’s being failed by those who have been counting on, it is indeed the way of hell. Heart pain is excruciating.

Those who have not the peculiar trials to which another is subjected may flatter themselves that they are better than he. But place them in the furnace of trial, and they might not endure it nearly as well as the one they censure and misjudge. How little we can know of the heart anguish of another. How few understand another’s circumstances. Hence the difficulty of giving wise counsel. What may appear to us to be appropriate, may, in reality, be quite the reverse. {5T 55.1}

So often we think this is what I need to do in my relationship. It is actually causing hurt without even knowing because we do not understand another person. Why? Because the sin our mind does not understand God and therefore we cannot understand others.

Proverbs 13:12 Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but [when] the desire cometh, [it is] a tree of life.

There is a desire for harmony in humanity and when a relationship is not going well, there are methods taken to try and mend that relationship.

Jeremiah 8:10 ….from the prophet even unto the priest every one dealeth falsely. 11 For they have healed the hurt of the daughter of my people slightly, saying, Peace, peace; when [there is] no peace.

Whether we are a priest in the church or home, whatever area we are, if there is a hurt, we have a tendency to make promises and there is peace. This is what will happen and it will be ok. I’ve received the wound but there is a promise of a better relationship. The bible says it’s only a slight healing. Mans promises are like the ropes of sand. We do not want to be disappointed when we are looking at the fabric in our hearts, there is nothing that we need but sympathy, companionship, love and harmony. These things we cannot compromise on. When there is a failure on those parts, we get wounded every time. There is a balm in Gilead. Every wound can be restored to health. Every social need can be met. I need the heart of Jesus. We have been looking for other hearts but we will be disappointed every time.

Promises are estimated by the truth of the one who makes them. Men make promises only to break them to mock the heart that trusted in them. Those who lean upon such men lean upon broken reeds but God is behind the promises he makes. He is ever mindful of his covenant and his truth endureth to all generations. 7BC page 942

It is a mistake to entertain the thought that God is pleased to see His children suffer. All heaven is interested in the happiness of man. {SC 46.3}

The Needs of the Heart

Heaven is in the interest of the happiness of man. Man could not even have been happy in Eden without the need met. What is heaven really interested in with you and me. What does heaven really care about on this planet? They know the circumstances of the problems of the world can be recreated by Gods word. But there is something heaven is really interested in – the needs of your heart.

Our heavenly Father does not close the avenues of joy to any of His creatures. The divine requirements call upon us to shun those indulgences that would bring suffering and disappointment, that would close to us the door of happiness and heaven. The world’s Redeemer accepts men as they are, with all their wants, imperfections, and weaknesses; and He will not only cleanse from sin and grant redemption through His blood, but will satisfy the heart-longing of all who consent to wear His yoke, to bear His burden. {SC 46.3}

Heaven is going to satisfy the heart longing of those who wear the yoke of Christ. This is the balm of Gilead.

It is His purpose to impart peace and rest to all who come to Him for the bread of life. He requires us to perform only those duties that will lead our steps to heights of bliss to which the disobedient can never attain. The true, joyous life of the soul is to have Christ formed within, the hope of glory. {SC 46.3}

As we stand against marriage and divorce, it has often been said against the faith that it is not good for man to be alone and it should be allowed for man to marry and remarry and remarry. That is not what man needs. To be married is not to solve the problem of being alone. To solve the problem of being alone is to have Christ formed within.  Because of sin, marriages aren’t the same. There is a hole in our fabric in a shape and the shape is Christ. Only he can fit in that spot. Only he.

The atoning sacrifice is full and sufficient. It is the new covenant, sealed with His blood, which was shed for many for the remission of sins. This Christ declared at the Last Supper. In this cup there is to those who drink in faith, peace-making, soul-cleansing efficacy. It is the balm of Gilead, which God has provided to restore health and soundness to the sin-stricken soul. {FLB 301.4}

There are requirements for us to love our enemies. It is impossible to love your enemies in our current state of sin. We can’t even love those who are nice to us. We don’t even know how to love. The bible says if a man smite, turn the other cheek. To be able to recover from a wound created by those around, for you to feel free to open yourself to anybody, unless your heart has been healed and that hole is completely satisfied, for us to be saved, we need that experience.

To the afflicted ones I would say, Be of good comfort in the hope of the resurrection morning. The waters of which you have been drinking are as bitter to your taste as were the waters of Marah to the children of Israel in the wilderness, but Jesus can make them so sweet with His love. When Moses presented before the Lord the sad difficulties of the children of Israel, He did not present some new remedy, but called their attention to that which was at hand; for there was a bush or shrub which He had created that was to be cast into the water to make the fountain sweet and pure. When this was done, the suffering people could drink of the water with safety and pleasure. {2SM 273.2}

God has provided a balm for every wound. There is a balm in Gilead, there is a physician there. Will you not now as never before study the Scriptures? Seek the Lord for wisdom in every emergency. In every trial plead with Jesus to show you a way out of your troubles, then your eyes will be opened to behold the remedy and to apply to your case the healing promises that have been recorded in His Word. In this way the enemy will find no place to lead you into mourning and unbelief, but instead you will have faith and hope and courage in the Lord. The Holy Spirit will give you clear discernment that you may see and appropriate every blessing that will act as an antidote to grief, as a branch of healing to every draught of bitterness that is placed to your lips. Every draught of bitterness will be mingled with the love of Jesus, and in place of complaining of the bitterness, you will realize that Jesus’ love and grace are so mingled with sorrow that it has been turned into subdued, holy, sanctified joy. {2SM 273.3}

When I read this, it solved the question I had for a long time. When I am in despair and trouble, I seek God. Then when things are fine it’s so easy to become frivolous and light hearted. Why is it? We don’t want the pain, without the pain we become Laodecian so fast. Here is the answer to it.  Is this not when you have a sore and a balm is applied and the pain is still there but it’s eased and soothed? That is a sanctified joy.

When Henry White, our eldest son, lay dying, he said, “A bed of pain is a precious place when we have the presence of Jesus.” When we are obliged to drink of the bitter waters, turn away from the bitter to the precious and the bright. In trial grace can give the human soul assurance, and when we stand at the deathbed and see how the Christian can bear suffering and go through the valley of death, we gather strength . . . and we fail not, neither are we discouraged in leading souls to Jesus. {FLB 186.4}

What must we guard against because of the nature of our social needs and searching in every place possible? We open ourselves up to much hurt and potential bitterness.

Hebrews 12:15 Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble [you], and thereby many be defiled;

When we have been hurt, we will hurt others. It is saying looking diligently lets any man fail. What are we to look at?

Hebrews 12:2 Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of [our] faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God. 3 For consider him that endured such contradiction of sinners against himself, lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds.

Social Disappointments

Christ came with the same fabric as we have. The bible says we must consider him who endured a contradiction of sinners against himself. He expressed it when he was looking at the city and he cried, how many times I would have gathered you to myself and she didn’t. He heeded the church and they didn’t come. He knows the pain of social disappointments. There are times in Jeremiah, where it talks about the balm. All three times, the people it’s written to didn’t get it applied.

Jeremiah 8:20 The harvest is past, the summer is ended, and we are not saved. 22 [Is there] no balm in Gilead; [is there] no physician there? why then is not the health of the daughter of my people recovered?

Why is the health of the daughter not recovered? Because they did not look diligently to Jesus. If you did not look to Jesus your social hurts will continue and continue and continue.

Jeremiah 46:11 Go up into Gilead, and take balm, O virgin, the daughter of Egypt: in vain shalt thou use many medicines; [for] thou shalt not be cured. 10 For this [is] the day of the Lord GOD of hosts, a day of vengeance, that he may avenge him of his adversaries: and the sword shall devour, and it shall be satiate and made drunk with their blood: for the Lord GOD of hosts hath a sacrifice in the north country by the river Euphrates.

This is talking of the last days, similar to the summer is ended. They were not looking to Jesus and their hurts were not cured. Do you desire to be pain free from social disarray? Social hurts will happen. It is my desire that I can apply the balm while it’s still available lest I cry with despair the summer is past, the harvest is ended and we are not saved. Seek solutions, seek the solution to your pain. We have a tendency to be hurt all the time.

Romans 5:12 Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:

Adam and Eve sinned. Their social fabric was damaged. This has come to us from them. All our broken fabric, social fabric, came from Adam and Eve. Not all appeared in Adam and Eve, but came from them. Did we not come from Adam and Eve? We did. Therefore all their pain came also but it appeared in action with us, not with Adam. It came into fruition in our individual experience but it came from the beginning of the fall. All of my and your hurts came from there and appear here now.

Romans 1:3 Concerning his Son Jesus Christ our Lord, which was made of the seed of David according to the flesh;

Consider all the damaged social fabric of all those before Jesus. There was David, what relationships did he have? What did his own son do to him? Absalom. The kings of Judah with all their wickedness, King Manasseh he did worse than any other king ever. Worse than every king he did worse. Solomon wrote in Proverbs I find more bitter than death the anger of a woman. Its talking of the hurt, and how hurtful it is to be hurt by the social realm. Rahab and Jacob. The principle is like produces like. Good will produce good but bad will produce bad. That is a law. If God decided to change it, he could have prevented it. Jesus Christ came as the seed of David according to the flesh. Bad produces bad. The flesh wasn’t good at all. In fact it had a God arranged concoction of social hurts so Jesus could be tempted in all points like as we are. For us to understand Jesus knows my very hurt and the very circumstance, yet we can’t see it, we must believe it because on him was laid the iniquity of us all.

Jesus Had Temptations of the Flesh

Jesus had the temptations in the flesh of your and my problem which came from Adam and is come into fruition of our lives. So it came into the fruition of Jesus. He had to keep it under to avoid the hurt leading him into sin. This is why the bible says consider him who endured such contradiction of sinners against himself. This is why it becomes weary when we have expectation of our loved ones. It keeps failing and it keeps happening and we become weary in our minds. Look to Jesus. Jesus could not allow the hurts of the flesh to appear. He kept them under. Have we kept them under? We have allowed them to appear. Those problems that have appeared in our social realms, they were laid on Jesus. Here is Christ having the same needs as us coming into the world where no one desires him. It’s not off to a very good start.

Isaiah 53:2 For he shall grow up before him as a tender plant, and as a root out of a dry ground: he hath no form nor comeliness; and when we shall see him, [there is] no beauty that we should desire him. 3 He is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were [our] faces from him; he was despised, and we esteemed him not. 4 Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted. 5 But he [was] wounded for our transgressions, [he was] bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace [was] upon him; and with his stripes we are healed. 6 All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned everyone to his own way; and the LORD hath laid on him the iniquity of us all.

Jesus which has inherited all the temptations and all the social problems have come to him through the line of David. It wasn’t just all that pain, he kept it under. He didn’t let it expose itself. What we have allowed to appear, was put on him. When you hurt because of yours or someone else’s wrong, that hurt was put into Jesus body. He bore it where? In his body on the tree. Who treated him like that? Who’s lack of love, sympathy, and companionship did he get? Yours and mine. We get hurt as we don’t receive the sympathy we desire and we receive the hurt we have also given to Jesus. We think, why don’t they treat me nicer and do this or that for me? Why don’t we treat Christ nicer? We get hurt and all our hurts go straight onto Jesus.

Did Jesus realise the guilt, the condemnation of what you and I do? Did he experience that? If we think about us experiencing Gods joy, if someone never liked righteousness and had not known anything but the guilt and condemnation of sin and God imputes to us Christs righteousness and then we wake up and are conscious of righteousness and we feel the freedom and joy of being free in the gospel, that is the opposite of what Christ experienced. Not knowing guilt or condemnation, God imputed to him our sins. He then became aware of the social problems. He was very aware. He bore the guilt of hurting someone else. He felt the condemnation of it. As we are imputed to gather the freedom of Christ, to that degree Christ felt the misery we find ourselves searching for the soul quenching solutions to our problems. We find ourselves hurt again and again. That, Christ bore. The bible says to let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus. As the exchange happens when we receive Christs mind, he receives ours. Wasn’t our mind absolute sin and crookedness in every social department? We can have the sound mind Christ has given to us. Why did Christ go through so much?

Hebrews 2:17 Wherefore in all things it behoved him to be made like unto [his] brethren, that he might be a merciful and faithful high priest in things [pertaining] to God, to make reconciliation for the sins of the people.

Christ has gone through this just so he can meet your Christ shaped hole. The hole in our fabric that we have, is God in his purity without partaking of mans nature couldn’t even fill. Christ had to be made like us so he can have mercy and fill that hole in perfection. It is Christ that can give us the sympathy. Why can he give us the sympathy? Because he suffered like us. He had what you had because it was imputed to him by God on the cross in Gethsemane and in the wilderness and in his years of life on earth. That is why he can give you sympathy as he knows what you need.  He can be companion as he’s going to the same place where you were born in sin and its turning around back to his father’s house. It’s the exact same path where we can travel. It’s exactly the same heart, believe it. He can be our companion in every millimetre of the Christian walk.

God had to make Eve out of Adam so they were the same. Not out of the dust. The same bone and flesh, exactly the same. Because of sin, marriage does not supply the hole in our fabric. Christ became bone of our bone and flesh of our flesh. Christ can love as he knows what we’re all about. He can love. While we were enemies he loved us and we can love him. It’s a hard thing to have a relationship when someone doesn’t want to receive the love you have for them. You have a relationship and they repulse you. But Christ can be loved. He is also a helper and help meet. Does Christ meet every area you need help in? Amen he does. He is the help meet.. When Christ’s heart beats with the same pain that your heart does, they are beating together in pain and joy and everything. He is the same. Consider the text when God said his name shall be Emmanuel. God with us. God was in Christ and we are in Christ. Where was Christ? He laid himself down. I love to think about this. This is the unselfishness of Jesus Christ.

Matthew 11:27 All things are delivered unto me of my Father: and no man knoweth the Son, but the Father; neither knoweth any man the Father, save the Son, and [he] to whomsoever the Son will reveal [him].

Here is Christ

The scripture says nobody knows the son. You don’t know him. Only the Father does. But who do we know? Jesus did not come to this world to reveal himself. Nobody knows the Son. Everything you read about Jesus is a revelation of the father. You see God the merciful father. The Son? You can’t see him, why? He laid his position down before he came. He emptied himself. No representation of me. I’m representing the father. All the goodness of Jesus is the father and every suffering of Christ is you and me. Does Jesus know what you are going through? He knows because it is you. It is your heart that he bore. He is a true regional representative emptied of self. He takes the necessities of the people and the character of God and his name is God with us in him. That is who he is. That is all we know of Jesus. We know that in him is us and God together in a being. Let us not think that we need to go to anybody else for sympathy but for Jesus. Jesus has perfect understanding of your and my case because it is my case that he had in every respect. Can you understand the balm of Gilead? Jesus has a hole in his fabric. It is a Paul, Darryl or Raelene shaped hole and we are to give our love. Why did Jesus the great shepherd go after that one sheep? Couldn’t he have been happy with the ninety and nine?

He needed that one sheep and went to find it. Why couldn’t God say that we have 143,999 lets pack up. No, he needs everyone that can be saved. He needs your love and we need his love as he is of the nature to love and be loved. If we give him the social attention that we desire for us, he will give us the attention that we have always longed for. As our hole in the fabric is absolutely mended, you can love the enemy.  You can love those that are so close that smite you on the right cheek and you can turn to the left. If someone says give me your coat, you can give them your cloak also as you are fully satisfied with Jesus Christ. Nothing can separate. This is a union, bone of our bone, flesh of our flesh, spirit of his spirit. We are living in the message of the fourth angel, Babylon has fallen.

Jeremiah 51:8 Babylon is suddenly fallen and destroyed: howl for her; take balm for her pain, if so be she may be healed. 9 We would have healed Babylon, but she is not healed: forsake her, and let us go every one into his own country: for her judgment reacheth unto heaven, and is lifted up [even] to the skies.

Take balm now. Take the relationship of Christ. Seek his word and take the promises that are for you. Christ claimed them. He claimed the promises in the Psalms because he was us and he needed them. If Christ needed them then we need them too. Call upon him while he is near, seek the Lord while he made be found as its closing. Judgment is gone out of this earth and we must not let any pain affect us and apply the balm because Babylon can’t.  Oh wondrous love that he would become us that we would become him.

Amen.

Posted on September 7, 2009, in Relationships, Sermons For Sabbath and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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